Sex, sex, sex. That’s a virgin’s dream or am I speaking for myself. My experiences with men were informative and somewhat pleasant. When a woman has a male company, it causes dopamine to release because of the male attention, thus creates a pleasant feeling. I have come to the realization of ways a young woman can connect with a man without having sex. In order to do this, understand men’s psychology. Some women have based their conclusions on men from their own assumptions, which leads to a lack of understanding of men. As rational beings, we should know about our surroundings and the people we let into our circle. I’m sharing my experience with connecting with men while being a virgin in college. This post is informing teen girls and young adult women to be knowledgeable about how to deal with boys and men. I am so tired of seeing girls depressed, vulnerable, and angry.
In high school, I debated with students on why we shouldn’t have sex before marriage. Yes, I was that virgin. The argument they were making is to live your life freely and not waste time waiting for marriage. The point I was trying to make is because you have sex with someone, it doesn’t mean that it’s enough to keep a man engaged in the relationship. Not having sex before marriage, causes you to get to know the person before making any commitment. While I agree that we should live freely, we should live smartly. This advice is directed teen girls (my age group). Based on my observations, girls become irrational, emotional, and angrier when they lose touch with their boyfriends. They think sex will help their relationship improve, but it will not. Most times it leads to breakups, then makeups and the cycle continues. As humans, we are very creative and we can use that creativity for relationships as well. The question we must ask ourselves is, what other ways can I connect with my man?
Let’s start off with the obvious. Communication is key. Just like how the police enforce the laws, a woman should enforce communication. Based on my observations, I see a lot of couples on their phones. This creates a blockage between the two. There’s no exchange of information, let alone a bond forming. What I learned from communicating with men, they like to talk about plans and goals, and things they would like to do in the future. As the relationship progresses you can talk about their past because the past makes them the person they are today. Often times a person’s reasons for their actions or thoughts is due to their past. So ladies, whatever information you have collected please move accordingly. Never give too much information away, but don’t interrogate. Keep the conversation as chill as possible.
Seducing a man is like an animal circling around its prey, assessing it’s strengths and weaknesses. Lately, some women have been skipping this step. I don’t know why because in my opinion, it’s fun. Since I don’t have sex, I normally take this route. When a woman seduce a man, she is showing that she is in control. A woman can have a man in the palm of her hands and can leave a strong effect on them. They will tell you things that most people do not know. They will also be comfortable with showing emotions around you. You can even seduce a man during conversations. Let them know what they have to look forward to. Let them know what you have to offer them. When you are in control, men are less likely to take advantage of you. Always show them that you are one step ahead of them.
Dealing with men is complex. Men say the same about us most of the time anyways. Seduction and Communication are two main actions that can connect you to a man deeply. You are deeply engaged with your target and your target is deeply engaged with you. It’s a done deal.
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